ROANOKE TIMES
Copyright (c) 1995, Roanoke Times
DATE: Sunday, December 10, 1995 TAG: 9512080033
SECTION: BUSINESS PAGE: G-6 EDITION: METRO
COLUMN: Working it out
SOURCE: CAMILLE WRIGHT MILLER
Q: In discussions about team building, the subject of "ropes training" has been raised. Hanging from ropes builds team integrity? What's lost if I opt out?
A: Ropes courses are designed to help groups work on issues of teamwork and personal achievement. Gayle C. Stoner, director of leadership development at Hollins College, says she understands that "most people think ropes courses are hokey" games. She says this perception "is well-deserved with large companies simply running folks through courses."
The two Roanoke Valley ropes courses - at Hollins College and the Roanoke Parks and Recreation Department - tailor both on-ground initiatives and ropes challenges to each group.
Ropes courses don't magically create teams; rather, they provide a venue in which to gain new perspective. Groups often develop patterns of problem solving: one individual gets angry, another fixes coffee, and the same individual gives solutions every time.
While this pattern works, it also means the same solutions are offered repeatedly. With that, an organization may not tap broader and more creative alternatives. Unfortunately, it's hard to shake ourselves from ingrained patterns.
Stoner uses the course as a "novel environment which equalizes power imbalances. In this environment, no one has the answer to problems." As a result, organizations "benefit with increased energy, creativity, and personal investment. Instead of a star person, there's a star group."
The "novelty of a new place, new challenges, and new roles" can help a group reach a new level of thinking and interaction.
Working toward team development is a process which takes time and attention. Stoner stresses that a one-time ropes adventure won't transform a group, but it can aid team growth.
You don't have to participate, but the loss to your group might be more significant than the loss of personal insight to you.
Q: My supervisor frequently gives me last-minute projects - because someone else failed to complete them. My supervisor admits this happens too often, but says he relies on me. I love my work, but I'm frustrated and ready to look for another job.
A: Before you begin a job search, evaluate your resentment. Then talk with your supervisor. He can't alter the situation if he's unaware of it.
Would you have less resentment if given a salary increase? Would the increase make you believe your efforts were fully valued? If so, remind your supervisor of your continuing efforts and request a raise.
If the cause of resentment is solely from the assignments, would you be satisfied if you could maintain a fixed schedule? If so, tell your supervisor that the erratic job responsibilities are pushing you to another job. Explain that you'd prefer to stay, but only if your schedule is fixed.
If neither option appeals to you, then another job may be the answer. However, good employees will often be called on to get extra work completed. Unless you research your new job carefully or make clear your limitations, it's like you'll find yourself repeating the pattern of bailing out co-workers at your new job.
Q: I was involved with a co-worker for over a year, but broke up with him several months ago. He stops by my desk every day and says he'd like to reconcile. His attention interferes with my work and peace of mind.
A: Office romances - and the remains of failed ones - are difficult for both the parties and their co-workers. If you're aware of his presence, so are your co-workers. It's a strain on everyone.
Move your conversation outside the office. Explain that the relationship is over and, outside of polite office conversation, you want no contact with him. Tell him that your work is being affected.
While you don't want to escalate the problem, you need to make clear that if this can't be resolved between the two of you, then you'll have to seek help from your supervisor and personnel office.
In the meantime, make sure that you aren't sending mixed signals. At the office, remain polite but distant. Cut all conversations short and refrain from personal discussions.
If assertive statements about your wishes are not respected, talk with your supervisor. It may be embarrassing, but it's now a work-related problem.
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