THE VIRGINIAN-PILOT
Copyright (c) 1996, Landmark Communications, Inc.
DATE: Friday, June 28, 1996 TAG: 9606280045
SECTION: DAILY BREAK PAGE: E14 EDITION: FINAL
COLUMN: Listen Up!
LENGTH: 33 lines
DEAR KAREN AND VORANDO: Since graduation, my girlfriend and I haven't been spending enough time together. We're both going to school in the fall, and we're both working a lot of hours. We miss each other a lot and assure each other that we can stay together.
We had plans to meet somewhere and spend the day together, but something occurred on my part that made it impossible for me to show up. Now, I need to apologize and make it up to her. But how? - Sincere Apology
Dear Sincere Apology: When you apologize, make it clear why you are apologizing.
To her, it may be that you are apologizing for the rain check given for the missed date, but it would be best to also apologize for the lack of time spent together. However, spending time together should be an effort from both of you; it takes two to keep a relationship going.
In apologizing, be very sincere and let her know that you want the relationship to continue. Perhaps a quiet dinner at a restaurant would help set the mood. You must be very clear in what you want to express so that your message won't be missed or misunder-stood.
Deliver it to her slowly and romantically. A poem and a gift might help.
When all is completed, make sure that you two set a plan to follow so that your quality time isn't interfered with or ruined by other priorities. ILLUSTRATION: Photo
Vorando Mack is a graduate of Norview High School and Karen Baranski
is a graduate of Green Run High School. by CNB