THE VIRGINIAN-PILOT
Copyright (c) 1997, Landmark Communications, Inc.
DATE: Friday, January 17, 1997 TAG: 9701160040
SECTION: DAILY BREAK PAGE: E1 EDITION: FINAL
COLUMN: LISTEN UP
SOURCE: BY KAREN PERREAULT and LAMONT-DEANGELO FEREBEE, ADVICE
COLUMNISTS
LENGTH: 35 lines
Dear Karen and Lamont: I was dating this guy about a year ago and it ended really wacky, with a break-up. Now he's calling me and we're making plans again, but he insists on talking about his ex-girlfriend a lot. She has another boyfriend, but I still feel insecure. I'm not sure where I stand as far as the relationship is concerned.
Are we just friends or not? - Insecure
Dear Insecure: It is easy to see why you might be confused. His behavior says one thing and his words say another. But this isn't unusual.
You two need to discuss this.
You say that your previous relationship ended abruptly. I think you need to stop and analyze why. This could be a big clue as to how to proceed.
Furthermore, his mentioning his ``ex'' to you could mean a variety of things. He might be trying to tell you that he has a life apart from you, that you are not essential. Or this could be his subtle way of telling you that he's only interested in you as a friend.
Or maybe you're being played. He might be trying to play the field until he finds someone he wants to ``settle down'' with.
Decide how you feel about him first and then talk it over with him. MEMO: Karen Perreault is a senior at Maury High School and
Lamont-Deangelo Ferebee is a sophomore at Norfolk State University.
Their column appears biweekly in Teenology. You can ask questions by
calling INFOLINE at 640-5555 and entering category 8335, or write to
them at Listen Up!, 4565 Virginia Beach Blvd., Virginia Beach, Va.
23462.