THE VIRGINIAN-PILOT 
              Copyright (c) 1997, Landmark Communications, Inc.

DATE: Friday, January 31, 1997              TAG: 9701300041
SECTION: DAILY BREAK             PAGE: E1   EDITION: FINAL 
COLUMN: LISTEN UP
SOURCE: BY KAREN PERREAULT AND LAMONT-DEANGELO FEREBEE, TEENOLOGY
        ADVICE COLUMNISTS 
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ADVICE: GIRL CONCERNED ABOUT ACTIONS OF MAN FOR WHOM SHE BABY-SITS

DEAR KAREN and Lamont,

I am a teen-age baby sitter. Because I cannot drive, I depend on the father (of the child) for a ride. Lately, he seems to be overly interested in me. I am becoming uncomfortable with his compliments but do not want to discuss it with his wife. Help! - Baby Sitter

Dear Baby Sitter: First, you must analyze how important this job is to you. If it is really essential, find another ride.

But if you still feel uncomfortable in this person's home, find another job.

Perhaps he thinks he is just being friendly. If this is the case, tell him that you find his comments inappro-priate.

If he persists, then it's time to discuss his behavior with his wife and find another job. Talking to her would allow her to see that her husband is making it too uncomfortable for you to work for them.

Do not wait until larger conflicts arise.

Note: To the 14-year-old who called and said you were an alcoholic, you can find help by calling the Judeo-Christian Outreach Center at 491-2846. MEMO: Karen Perreault is a senior at Maury High School and

Lamont-Deangelo Ferebee is a sophomore at Norfolk State University.

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